Surrogacy: Equality or Complementarity?
The right of gay couples to have children through surrogacy is increasingly seen as an advance for equality, and a triumph of tolerance over prejudice. When the Italian designers Domenico Dolce and Stephano Gabbana described the IVF children of Sir Elton John as “synthetic”, there were calls for a boycott of Dolce and Gabbana’s products. Elton John responded by saying, “Shame on you for wagging your judgemental little fingers at IVF – a miracle that has allowed legions of loving people, both straight and gay, to fulfil their dream of having children.”
More recently, when Dustin Lance Black revealed that he and his husband, Tom Daley, were expecting a baby via surrogacy, some critics claimed that it was “wrong” that two men should raise a child. The authors of this letter have no objections to same-sex parenting per se. However, when we raised our general objections to surrogacy in response to the announcement by Black and Daley, we were both accused of bigotry.
But the reality of surrogacy is very different to the sanitised version peddled by the businesses that broker such “services”. The majority of women whose wombs are rented are a far cry from the poster girls – blonde, smiling, and offering to carry a baby for altruistic reasons, rather than because she desperately needs the money.
The whole thing is worth a read.