What is it that you need (or want)? What is the thing about which you think, “If only that were resolved, then I’d be happy” or “Life is fine, but I wish this part of it were different”? What would abundant life look like to you? A spouse? A different spouse? Children? Full health? A better job? A bigger house? A helpful exercise might be to make a list of those things, or to write a description of the life you’re longing for, highlighting the bits that you feel are missing. Then think about why you want those things - are there deeper needs that lie underneath them? What need are you looking for that house or that spouse to meet? For many of us it is simply a sense that we haven’t achieved or acquired the things we thought we would (or should) by this age. Is it a case of broken expectations? What does the enemy tell you that this lack means about who you are and how your life is going?